Caretaker Resources... Part 2

In our previous post we referenced some of the online tools that can help you generate advanced directives; we also noted that it is very important to execute a health care power of attorney in accordance with state law requirements.  

For example, New Hampshire along with four other states has unusual formalities which would likely cause any such computer generated health care power of attorney to be invalid.   For that reason, we recommend that you execute your advanced directives through your physician’s office or through your estate planning/elder law attorney’s office. 

However, if you would like to explore some of these websites, they include:

• Five Wishes (www.agingwithdignity.org)
• Caring Conversations (www.practicalbioethics.org)

Who Takes Care of the Caregiver?

Do you know a caregiver? 

If so, a thought-provoking short article published on the "Getting Balanced" blog shares an innovative idea on how to make things better for caregivers.  

When speaking to a caregiver, the post suggests, many of us feel generally sympathetic towards their situation and are inclined to say one or both of the following: “Please let me know if there is anything I can do.” and/or “Please remember to take care of yourself” to which you will receive the same answer to both: “I will”.  P.S. they won’t.  

This is not to say that these genuine affections aren’t appreciated, because believe me they ARE!

The sad truth, however, is that caregivers often end up living each day with their head barely above the water and they simply don’t remember your offer.  That is unless you phrase the intent with a slightly more realistic view of the situation.  One that will really slap them across the face, because when you say it…. and I mean really say it……”hey your situation really is difficult, how about 20 minutes to vent judge free” they will always remember your act of kindness, even if phrased in what might appear as harsh to an outsider.